“Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results.”
― Narcotics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous
There comes a time in all of our lives when everyone on the outside sees a flaw in us but we are too blind to recognize the damage our behaviors are having on ourselves. It is extremely frustrating being on the outside. You want to shake these people and tell them to wake up to recognize what they are doing is harmful and make them stop. Life is a precious gift and why throw it away! Yell at them and explain to them that if they continue on the same path they are going to miss alot of memories – grandkids, baseball games, birthdays, etc… All the while mostly they will turn a deaf ear to us because addiction is something that those who aren’t addicted just can’t fully understand or comprehend. We are sad for those people but for whatever reason they are happy with the choices they’ve made and satisfied to live their lives on ‘their terms’. It pisses all of us on the outside of because in our mind it is selfish and it is a waste of such a precious gift but we are all free to make our own choices and others (including myself) need to learn to accept it.
I highlighted a quote from a book I read a few years back because it angered me so much because I think addicts truly feel this way. They accept their fate as if there is no ability to change it. Their addiction ultimately will likely become self-serving and will be lead to their cause of death at which time they’ll be able to think ‘told so’.
“I admire addicts. In a world where everybody is waiting for some blind, random disaster or some sudden disease, the addict has the comfort of knowing what will most likely wait for him down the road. He’s taken some control over his ultimate fate, and his addiction keeps the cause of his death from being a total surprise.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Choke
It doesn’t have to be this way of course. For example, a recent study showed that people who quit smoking by age 40 extend their lives by 10 years. That is ten extra years of wonderful memories spent with family and friends – hopefully enjoying the ‘golden years’ of your life. Now, the effects may not be as extreme for older smokers but I guarantee that the effects of quitting no matter what the age are extensive in terms of your lifespan. For those of us on outside we don’t understand what the hurry to the grave is.
Photo of the Day – Uffizi Gallery
Sorry for the somber post today but had to get some things off my chest. This is the narrow courtyard between the Uffizi Gallery in Florence, Italy. The street leads out to the River Arno and probably extends another 100 yards or so behind where I took this shot from. Unfortunately, they were doing construction to the majority of the wing on the right side so I wasn’t able to capture the full extent of the courtyard. Usually this place is jammed – you must buy tickets weeks, if not months in advance, just to get in (the David statue is the most famous of several historically important Renaissance works) – but at 6:30 in the morning, shortly after sunrise there was barely anyone around. The silence was magical. Except for a few policeman guarding the historic structure and some street vendors setting up in the courtyard at my back the place was a ghost town. Yet another advantage to loving life and squeezing each second out of the day – serenity in what is often a chaotic space. I just wish my mind would be able to go on sabbatical once in awhile.